One Night With "Bankole"***Thank you, Funmi, Just Doyin for the books you recommended I read [left via the comment section, for the ‘Writing on the wall’ Post]…!!!
“This time the prayer of each of them found favor before the glory of God...For it was to Tobias before all other suitors that she belonged by right.” - Tobit
Whilst watching the movie, ‘One Night with the King’ [“Based on the tale of Esther, the orphan girl living in Babylon, who became the queen of the Persian, read more about her in the book of Esther], I realized that like Esther, it takes one night (one date) with ‘Bankole’ to prove myself worthy enough to be his ‘Queen’, a ‘Woman of virtue’ or what we would call, a ‘Proverb 31’ woman.
And from a woman’s perspective, it does take one encounter with a man (that she has a bond with), to set off a series of day dreaming about running down the aisle with him. Similarly for the man, it takes just one night with a woman for him to realize that he’d like to spend the rest of his life with her.
After that, every other date he goes on, will simply be a formality to assure himself that he is not about to make a slip-up in his final selection. I am of the opinion that some guys take relationship with a woman like an investment (Guys, you are free to prove me wrong). As a women, we bring our proposals (call it, business proposals if you like)…the man on the other hand has to decide which will be profitable to his future plans (believe it or not). The belief is that they have to deal with different women flaunting their character, intellect, appearance (or more) before them. And to make the selection effortless, he needs to be able to distinction those that stand-out, then separate the good ones from the bad. The last woman standing is often the one who has made a lasting impression on him. The one he fancies. The one women who is able to calm the storm in him with her still voice.
“...May the Lord make your Love increase & overflow for each other...” -
I Thessalonians 3:12
But know this, it is only those who are wise recognize a woman that is ‘golden’ in behavior.
So my night with ‘Bankole’…I need to ask God like Esther did…that He (God) teach me to warm my heart towards ‘Bankole’ and that I am able to accept him for who is, if he is God’s will for me.
“God, give me the spouse I NEED and not what I WANT...”
So I have to Get Ready…you know, give him something beautiful to look at…
[Remember the show ‘The Bachelor’…the women have to do something different from the rest of the bunch to be able to get another chance with the Bachelor…Ok, I know the show may possibly be staged but what about when Esther had to compete with other ladies to win the King’s admiration?]
The way I carry myself should emulate one who is ready for the next level…
Lastly, there should be wisdom in what I say even if we may not have a lot of things in common with him…(He may love Politics but I should be able to find a common ground to have a breakthrough)
In the end, if I am the chosen one then I will be honored that out of a million, he chose me. If not, then I dust myself and move on…but I must remember it takes only ‘One night with the King’
‘Bankole, maa ma reti e o…’ [Translated: ‘Bankole, I will be waiting for you…’]
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The Post title and Post was inspired by the 2006 movie titled , "One Night with the King"...[tale of Esther (from the Bible)]
